A Simplified Complication …. PEOPLE ;)

“Sometimes people come in your life for a moment, a day, or a lifetime. It matters not the time they spent with you but how they impacted your life in that time”

Life is something very interesting. It appears simple but as you try to look into it closely it starts getting complicated and at times tangled! One of the key elements of anyone’s life are the people. They are the ones who are related with most of the experiences and memories in a person’s life. Just as understanding life is difficult so is understanding people…. However hard you try.

As Nicholas Sparks mentions in his book The Rescue, “….People come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past.”

Each of the people that we come across in our life teaches us something; leave behind memories, stories and an experience. Some leave never to return back to our life, some leave to come back with a fresh dose of learning and memories and some never leave us…  they are there for us all throughout, come what may… they have seen us through all ups and downs. They seem to connect all the dots of our life and completing it.

A few days back, while having a conversation, there was something that I came across. At times we come across people who change a lot for reasons we might not understand… but they do change and eventually the care and compassion that existed would start diminishing. 

     

If this change is upfront and on the face of it, then it is easy to deal with it because you know what would come and you can plan your actions but the ones who suddenly come out of their disguise or are constantly in a disguise are the ones you should be prepared for, as they are the ones who wouldn’t give you an opportunity to hold yourself when they would attack. A famous quote that states, “The better is an enemy who upfront attacked, than a friend who stabbed the back”, clarifies the point better. 

Further with such a sad experience with people it is obvious to feel “I crossed oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump puddles for me”. This thought often has the person’s mind clouded and there are high levels of trust issues that a person begins to have. But it is always better to be strong and don’t let what you’ve been through prevent you from getting through. The best revenge you can have on the person who attacked you in disguise is to show them that you’ve moved on and they did not even get a chance to see you suffer…

It is not that there are only some harsh memories associated when people leave… there are people who leave behind good memories as well but they had to leave us as they were destined to or because of situations they had to. These people leave a mark on our lives and we hope to get connected with them soon… ‘coz goodbyes are not forever.

Lastly, I’d say that it is destiny that brings people in our life but it is our behavior and how much we value them that decide who all would stay. There are certain people who come as a blessing in our life... Realize their value and consider yourself fortunate enough to have them in your life.

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